Marcuss
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I don’t know if this belongs in OT or N&P (mods feel free to move if appropriate) but I’ve got a situation I’m struggling with.
I’ve got a very close friend who has stood by me and been tremendously selfless at times where I’ve needed his support and I’m aware of the best bits of his character and what he’s capable of as a person.
I feel it is also important to say at this juncture that I have seen this extend across *** and race.
However, the very concept of privilege is one that his brain refuses to rationalise. He’s a South African man born in the late 80s, whose best friend was murdered by a black person, and who cannot see how his whiteness may have ever intrinsically benefited him.
His belief is that media reporting only serves to fuel the flames and that any mention of a person’s colour in a news story is to fan the flames of ongoing debate.
He makes statements such as he should not be made to feel guilty to be white because of what happened in the past and does not understand how in a general sense, across the globe, the white man has put themselves in a position of advantage - whether it be compared to any other demographic.
Apologies for the ham fisted outlining in the post above but I am drunk and want to know how people may have approached similar situations in the past.
Fundamentally he doesn’t feel as though he should have to ‘apologise’ for the actions of others (i.e. his ancestors) and the entire concept of privilege is one he refuses to recognise.
I’m trying to educate or find a way to get him to understand but... umm... it’s hard
I’ve got a very close friend who has stood by me and been tremendously selfless at times where I’ve needed his support and I’m aware of the best bits of his character and what he’s capable of as a person.
I feel it is also important to say at this juncture that I have seen this extend across *** and race.
However, the very concept of privilege is one that his brain refuses to rationalise. He’s a South African man born in the late 80s, whose best friend was murdered by a black person, and who cannot see how his whiteness may have ever intrinsically benefited him.
His belief is that media reporting only serves to fuel the flames and that any mention of a person’s colour in a news story is to fan the flames of ongoing debate.
He makes statements such as he should not be made to feel guilty to be white because of what happened in the past and does not understand how in a general sense, across the globe, the white man has put themselves in a position of advantage - whether it be compared to any other demographic.
Apologies for the ham fisted outlining in the post above but I am drunk and want to know how people may have approached similar situations in the past.
Fundamentally he doesn’t feel as though he should have to ‘apologise’ for the actions of others (i.e. his ancestors) and the entire concept of privilege is one he refuses to recognise.
I’m trying to educate or find a way to get him to understand but... umm... it’s hard