Don't know how any of that is equitable tbh.
There is a difference between democratic state actors and non state actors to start with. Secondly there is a difference between those affecting global peace and those not.
Now coming to specifics Kashmir is a lot more complex issue which would probably require it's own thread and though i am no fan of much of both India and Pakistan's actions in there in the past, that is a completely different issue. As for Iraq and Afghanistan again, especially with respect to Iraq, i am no fan of US action which has been ridiculous on many levels but again they are not looking to stay there for ever and is not really equitable.
And even if say in a hypothetical world it was equitable somehow, don't see how it still justifies what they have been upto for the past many many years in context to their country and the consequences on the whole world. The Haqqani network pretty much still have a similar agenda.