Uppercut
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I think it's quite likely that the advantages that led to marriage being (almost) universally adopted were mostly military. I don't know what the mechanism was, but it became widely established in a very violent time. I'm pretty sceptical that this is immediately relevant. I don't think that if we do away with marriage, the tribe next door will wipe us out and eat our babies. If I was really pushing this argument I would instead point to how much worse children of unmarried couples (like myself) do on every metric you can think of- we're unhappier, poorer, more likely to experience various kinds of bad stuff, etc. This tallies with the personal experience of a few people in this thread, too.Globalisation means that no society exists in isolation. Moreover, the culture of dominant societies tends to pervade other societies. This doesn't mean that every facet of those societies is superior. That should be quite obvious. Throw in religious missonaries and...well you get it.
I brought it up because I'm challenging the concept that marriage and/or long term monogamy is the best method for raising children. I'm pointing out that it's a facet of society and culture, just like other things such as our education systems, our religions, our diet etc that may not actually be the best system.
Finally, I would point out that the concept of marriage has only recently been ascribed with the concept of love. That wasn't really it's purpose, throughout history.
Look, you're free to raise your kids any way you like, I certainly won't judge you for it. If you do a great job of it then maybe others will copy it, and the system will spread to the point where it becomes the new norm. That's how these things change. But as of right now, alternatives to marriage as a way of raising kids are performing really badly empirically.