Top_Cat
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Provoked by someone I know, when asked to do something by his wife, feels hen-pecked then resorts to the classic 'tell me what to do or how you want it done, NOT both'.
Personally I think this is a tremendously backward way of looking at it. A man is not uncompromising, this is a infantalising Hollywood stereotype that many men live. A man does what is necessary to get the job done and sometimes that involves stuff like communication, compromise and so forth. It's very manly behaviour to negotiate and deal appropriately with conflict, boyish to be impervious to it. All I see in my mate above is a teenager being bugged by his mum saying "I don't wanna!" A man is trustworthy because he does what he says he is going to do when he says he's going to do it. A boy says he'll do it then doesn't and complains about the differing timelines. Blokes who feel hen-pecked, if ya do the job right the first time, she probably won't bug you.
Also, a man can cook and clean. A boy relies on others to do the jobs he cba to do. A man is self-sufficient, can look after himself and that means you can clean the damn toilet and do the dishes and it's incredibly manly to follow that up with a great meal. A man also keeps his health and fitness in check as a means to maintain his self-sufficiency. A man doesn't do this merely to appeal to women but for himself. I fully acknowledge that the above is broad, incomplete and hetero-centric but that's deliberate as I believe this stuff should be a conversation, not a bunch of rules. It broadly carries the spirit of what I believe a man is, though. I should point out that I'm far, far from complete in the self-sufficient stakes, my Dad can do a bunch of **** I can't (rebuild an engine, for example) but I'm trying to learn. A man learns and is adaptable too.
So, CW, what makes a man?
Personally I think this is a tremendously backward way of looking at it. A man is not uncompromising, this is a infantalising Hollywood stereotype that many men live. A man does what is necessary to get the job done and sometimes that involves stuff like communication, compromise and so forth. It's very manly behaviour to negotiate and deal appropriately with conflict, boyish to be impervious to it. All I see in my mate above is a teenager being bugged by his mum saying "I don't wanna!" A man is trustworthy because he does what he says he is going to do when he says he's going to do it. A boy says he'll do it then doesn't and complains about the differing timelines. Blokes who feel hen-pecked, if ya do the job right the first time, she probably won't bug you.
Also, a man can cook and clean. A boy relies on others to do the jobs he cba to do. A man is self-sufficient, can look after himself and that means you can clean the damn toilet and do the dishes and it's incredibly manly to follow that up with a great meal. A man also keeps his health and fitness in check as a means to maintain his self-sufficiency. A man doesn't do this merely to appeal to women but for himself. I fully acknowledge that the above is broad, incomplete and hetero-centric but that's deliberate as I believe this stuff should be a conversation, not a bunch of rules. It broadly carries the spirit of what I believe a man is, though. I should point out that I'm far, far from complete in the self-sufficient stakes, my Dad can do a bunch of **** I can't (rebuild an engine, for example) but I'm trying to learn. A man learns and is adaptable too.
So, CW, what makes a man?
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