We implicitly accept that the government has the right to tell people who they can marry as much as they can tell priests who they'll accept at the altar. Obama and the SC are making a moral judgement (homosexuality is ok), it's just the side that you agree with.
There's an absolutely essential difference between the legalise/don't-legalise positions though. This is because:
- Things are legal unless it's explicitly stated that they're not.
- The loosening of legal bounds still allows everyone in this case (for or against) to act within their own morality.
But, the converse is not true.
Therefore the symmetry you or Shapiro are claiming between the two positions does not exist. It would only exist if the law was somehow forcing anti-same-***-marriage people to marry against their wishes. Seeing as it's not, I don't see the equivalence.
Whether bakers have to bake cakes for gay couples or religious institutions should have to marry gay couples are two separate issues from same-*** marriage itself. These are both less clear cut and I think a range of views are reasonable and I don't really disagree with yours (I have less sympathy for the cake-bakers though - what's a market good for if you're not open to all?). The separate idea that government need have no role in marriage fits in there too. None of those were what I was talking about though.
"Representing the argument as it really is" is frankly a really dangerous reduction of what is an extremely complex issue. You're projecting your own prejudice on to the argument (ie. the only reason to oppose SSM is if you're a fundamentalist idiot) to dismiss a much more complex point (the government shouldn't be involved in dictating religious practice).
There are many many complex issues out there but I really find it hard to see that this is one of them. The core of it seems remarkably simple to me. The only complexity is that it's pushing against cultural and religious tradition.
Don't know where the bolded came from - seems unusually grumpy from you
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Again, there's nothing in the legalisation of same-*** marriage that involves 'dictating religious practice'. You're talking about a different issue.
The god/government thing depends on how you've constructed god. If you're looking at god as the literal, white bearded spiritual being who sent his son to be crucified a couple of thousand years ago then there's very little resemblance. If you're looking at god as the moral arbiter of society, the monolith that bestows providence alongside human free will, the defender of the weak and smiter of the unjust then it's extremely similar. Having to explain to people that there's a difference between legality and morality is a good example of the phenomenon. To the question of whether I'd prefer a government or a god to be these things, I'd answer neither.
I get the argument that when people feel something is unjust or unhandled or are at their wits end, then they
may look around for some all-encompassing entity for their recompense - something bigger and other that had perhaps fallen short and should be responsible for making things right, in their minds. This might be god or the government or (the common one when I was growing up) 'the system', or some other higher power. My reaction to that is a great big meh, if anyone thinks the government is going to solve all their problems, they're fairly soon going to find they're out of luck.