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NoEver seen someone do the whole "you two are cute together" to people who are flirting?
Hendrix in this thread is coaching people on how to run marathons before they've learnt how to stand up.
NoEver seen someone do the whole "you two are cute together" to people who are flirting?
Yeah, literally none of that applies. No one will ever say we're cute together when they're not very discretely damning us to hell. And how do you hook up when you can't even sit together without causing a row. This is all taking part in Pakistan and I'm just really glad to have a like-minded fried, which is a deal I don't intend on ****ing up.No
Hendrix in this thread is coaching people on how to run marathons before they've learnt how to stand up.
I hope it's not the curse of computer science.Is it? Can't say it's helped my cause.
I've heard about how some attempted relationships pan out in these conservative Muslim communities from my friends, and my advice genuinely is do not pursue it until and unless you are able to take care of you and the girl. Because it ends up badly more often than not, and she will suffer worse than you will.
The nature of our relationship is that why l know exactly how she feels about stuff and what he has to go through with because of it. It's a bit like looking at myself from a couple of years ago. And apparently I'm a very good listener so it's gone from there.I'm still chick repellent romantically
Now this a legitimate concern but I hope neither of us is dumb enough to let that out. Can't even tell anyone why we get along.Even worse, they'll say you've been teaching her bad stuff
We're making progress..... before they've learnt how to stand up.
I mean it kinda happened to me, and I don't even live in a country like Pakistan.Now this a legitimate concern but I hope neither of us is dumb enough to let that out. Can't even tell anyone why we get along.
I can't bail on her. It'd be crushing to get to know me and then have me disappear. But for real, I've sort of become her support system at this point. Whoops.You're not going to be able to maintain a platonic friendship with her in that environment, so I suggest put it on ice and take it slow unless you're ready to deal with the consequences
Things will be better once you get to Uni
This is depressingly relatable. Thanks for the story, Daemon. Religious nuts are ****ing crazy.I mean it kinda happened to me, and I don't even live in a country like Pakistan.
My gf and I were muslim, grew up in SIngapore. Somewhere along the way when we were kids, we stopped believing. Her Dad, who's super conservative, found out that she didn't care about Islam and found a couple of pictures of her wearing a bikini a year after we were dating (which he already didn't approve of) and then blamed me for influencing her. He also stalked me and found a picture of me hugging a doggo which he said proved I was bad for her.
He was a big part of the reason why she ran off to work in the UK, which has pretty much put a massive dent in our 5+ year relationship.
I intensely hate large parts of the religion and culture surrounding it.
Yeah, literally none of that applies. No one will ever say we're cute together when they're not very discretely damning us to hell. And how do you hook up when you can't even sit together without causing a row. This is all taking part in Pakistan and I'm just really glad to have a like-minded fried, which is a deal I don't intend on ****ing up.
I've heard about how some attempted relationships pan out in these conservative Muslim communities from my friends, and my advice genuinely is do not pursue it until and unless you are able to take care of you and the girl. Because it ends up badly more often than not, and she will suffer worse than you will.
Does this depend on age? I didn't realise how young trundler was.This is depressingly relatable. Thanks for the story, Daemon. Religious nuts are ****ing crazy.
Probably the safest way you both can maintain a friendship without getting into deeper trouble is to avoiding meeting each other unless you're absolutely certain no one will see. Try to keep your physical interactions to group social events. Keep most of your conversations to text/email/snapchat/tiktok/whatever digital means exist that old people and outsiders can not stalk.I can't bail on her. It'd be crushing to get to know me and then have me disappear. But for real, I've sort of become her support system at this point. Whoops.
This is not true. Repeat - this is not true. She has plenty of other options for this.I can't bail on her. It'd be crushing to get to know me and then have me disappear. But for real, I've sort of become her support system at this point. Whoops.